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Wednesday, April 08, 2009


Sometimes life is complicated and it seems like it's always going to get you down. I'm sorry. I hope you feel better and less stressed out soon!

Lady, I totally feel you on this. FOR REAL. The only thing that could make my life worse right now is to find wormy throw up on the floor, and if that does happen, I will have a very serious problem since I do not have any pets.

I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I just feel like everything is sucking big time right now. And like you said, it's really nothing huge. Things could be A LOT worse and I'm trying really hard to be thankful that they're not...it's just hard right now.

Ah honey, I am so glad you vented. I think there are lots of unsettled, unhappy people who leave relatively normal lives and feel badly complaining about them because, in comparison, "it" could be so much worse.

I have been thinking about you a ton this week, what with my acci-versary and all, and I just want you to know that it will get better. Your knee will eventually heal, you will be able to work out again (and work out some of that anxiety). When you feel good, the cat problems don't seem so bad, and when you can release stress at the gym the work problems don't seem so bad. And when you aren't anxious about work or cats the bathtubs and projects don't seem so important.

Keep your chin up, girl. It will get better. I promise.


I've come close to melting down myself as I look around my home and realize that everywhere I look, something needs doing. Every single thing ... argh!

Sweetie, I'm sorry. We don't mind if you "self-indulge" on, um, your own blog! You can whine, cry, rant, rave, whatever! I hope that asshat who hit you has a scorching case of roundworm.

Oh man. It is just seriously that time of year. I feel your pain, and am just holding out hope that summer will come and save us from this gigantic slump we all seem to be in!

I think it's a good idea to embrace the Debbie Downer in you every once and awhile. It really helps me to say 'look at all the things in my life that suck' and just put it out there--at least then you know where you stand and you don't have pretend to be all shiny happy when you're not. Having to do that makes it worse. I like to think that once the weather is actually nice for more than 2 days at a time things will seem better--at least that's what I'm hoping.

I believe we have discussed the work situation before and here is my current deal. I just got my third rejection email in less than a month for another job. Did I really want the job, maybe not, but I just want to do something that actually makes me motivated and not want to scratch my eyes out when I get out of bed in the morning.

I'm totally stressed about Brooks and whatever the hell is going on with his health that no doctor seems to diagnose, they just give him medicine. AGH!

So while I have no wonderful advice on how to perk yourself up, I can happily commiserate with you. Booooo.

Pain can make the whole world go grey. I have ankylosing spondylitis, and pre-diagnosis, I was going crazy sad with the pain.

As for the job, you need to lighten up on yourself a little. Do 50% of your emails every day. Give yourself something to look forward to on your breaks/lunch-- bring a book, a crossword puzzle, draw yourself a pretty picture-- find ways to use your potential during your down time so you don't feel so useless.

If you need the money, you should keep the job. So it's YOUR job to make the most of your non-committed-to-job time, pursuing your hobbies/interests/callings with the free time you have.

And the pain. Spend time taking care of your body. Hot compresses, hot baths, a rolly chair you can roll from one end of the apartment to the other without effort... the little things will go a long way. If you can't do aerobic exercise, watch what you eat and focus on floor exercises like sit-ups and crunches to strengthen your buzz word of a core.

Give yourself a break, basically. Enjoy what there is to enjoy and don't beat yourself up about not enjoying an incredibly boring office job. Your knee will heal in time... it's up to you to make the most out of your life, no matter what circumstances are thrown at you.

I only say this because I've been there with the pain and the boring job.


I think we're all entitled to feel this way once in awhile, no matter how truly lucky we all are in the grand scheme of things. Do what you need to do to feel better - read, watch a movie, cry, take a hot bath or shower, get a massage or a pedicure, take a personal day, whatever - and then make a list of things you need to do to be happy again and tackle them one at a time.

That's what I do. It seems to help.

I feel ya on the feeling whiny and miserable about things and then feeling guilty about feeling that way when you have it pretty good.

I have the same boring yet cushy office job and have finally admitted to myself the money and low stress levels are too good to leave. So I've done what Mel suggests - I've used my down time to pursue hobbies like writing, photography, and cooking and I started a night grad school program this year. It has helped quite a bit with the frustration and boredom.

Also, stress about wedding planning = the suck. I desparately want to scale back/change some of the plans we started making TWO YEARS ago when I had a totally different idea of what I wanted my wedding to be, but it's too late and we're committed to these things. Gah!

In general, I've learned to tell my Type A personality to shut the hell up (i.e., I've been sicker than I've been in years the last year few weeks so can't work out, have been traveling a lot for my sick and now dead grandpa so have been eating like crap and gained a couple lbs; the house is in chaos and we've been fighting with our condo association to have something fixed). Forcing myself to be laid back by essentially pretending the bad things don't exists seems to work for now. : )

Here's the thing: While, yes, it could always be worse and, yes, things are going well compared with what many people have to suffer through, I think it's the human condition to keep searching, keep yearning, keep hoping, keep reaching for more. Otherwise we become complacent and stop striving to make the world better, at least for ourselves and those we love.

I sometimes feel the way you're feeling now, and every time I start feeling frustrated or aimless or upset or unsatisfied, I start thinking about how much worse it could be, too. And if I don't think of it first, my husband cheerfully reminds me. Either way, I end up feeling guilty, and like I'm unappreciative and greedy. Which, of course, doesn't make me feel any better at all! So maybe the key is to sometimes indulge for a while, and then move on, focusing on the positive? I don't know. I don't have the secret, either...

Aww, honey, it's okay. Sometimes life kinda rots and it's easy to get down. Like Caryn says, maybe the key is to indulge for a while and then move on. Sometimes we just need a little bit of down time and there isn't anything wrong with that.

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